How to Get the Man You Want: Flirting Advice for Women
To begin with, there are five attitudes and seven skills you will need to become a great flirt. For the most part, to be the best flirt it is mostly in your delivery.
Most women will get the man because of their great attitude towards life; this is very attractive. Being a good looker and maybe clever with words is worthless if your attitude is poor, energy is low and your outlook about your life is pessimistic. Be optimistic not pessimistic about the event or activity and the outcome of the day.
Your attitude depends on your state of mind and through our research and experience we have identified five states of mind that make up a great flirting attitude. Adopting a good flirtatious attitude and applying it to the skills you will learn will ensure you become a truly great flirt.
The five best attitudes to be a good flirt are:
- Playfulness
- Funny
- Taking Notice and Control
- Stand Out
- Seductive
In turn each of these attitudes contains certain ingredients:
- Playfulness – light-hearted, high-spirited, little mischievous, frisky, teasing in a good way.
- Funny – witty, entertaining, lively, willing to play the game.
- Taking notice/control – observing, being aware of the other person, showing an interest.
- Stand Out – be the outspoken on and express appreciation, acceptance, curiosity.
- Seductive – taking risks/take action, liberated, optimistic, opportunistic
Being playful and light-hearted makes the flirting safe but allows for a little naughtiness. Using fun attracts people; they are drawn to the energy. Taking notice allows the flirt to learn about the other person and show an interest, making the other person feel special and appreciated.
Research has shown that many great flirts have a lot of friends of the opposite sex. Great flirts love people – male flirts love and have an affinity for women; female flirts love and have an understanding of men. Flirts also know how to go for it. They are not afraid to take risks because they have let go of past hurts and are optimistic about themselves and other people.
There have been studies on adults trying to attract the opposite sex using visualizing techniques and affirmations. These adults used these techniques most of the week and before going out to approach, attract, and get that phone number or even have sex. The adults that used these techniques had 71% better results than the groups that did not use visualizing and affirmations.
You can change your attitude by changing what you think and how you feel. To be playful you just have to think playful and feel playful. If you don’t particularly feel playful right now, think back to a time when you did. Notice what you were thinking and feeling then. Become aware of how just thinking of a time when you were acting playful causes you to feel playful now. When you are feeling playful you are light-hearted, high-spirited, mischievous, frisky and teasing. How would you be if you were feeling like this?
The same process works for the other four attitudes. Fun is similar to playfulness. Taking notice is when you turn up your senses so that you can tune in to people. To love people, think of those people you already accept and really appreciate – how do you feel when you are around them? Now imagine looking at everybody you meet in the same way.
Have you ever been in a situation where you just went for it? You had nothing to lose and everything to gain your heart and mind both agreed that this was the right thing to do and you were the right person to do it. This is the “go for it” state of mind and it is the way great flirts live.
