The Art of Flirting Without Anxiety
For some women, flirting with men comes as naturally to them as waking up each morning. The art of sending simple, subtle signals to men that these women are attracted to isn’t as much an art form for them as it is second-nature, and they often are able to flirt effortlessly. But that isn’t the case for most women; if you’re anything like me, the prospect of flirting with a guy you’re attracted to is a daunting, terrifying prospect – but I’ve found a number of ways in which I can flirt and express my attraction without throwing myself into a panic attack.
The first part, and possibly the most important, is to look attractive. This doesn’t mean that you have to look like a centerfold, but it does mean that you need to be aware of your best features and how to accentuate those effectively. Do not, however, go overboard: instead of heavily-rimming those beautiful brown eyes of yours, use a complementary color to help define and bring them out. Bonus points if you’re able to do so while appearing to wear no makeup at all – that’s because the more naturally beautiful you seem, the more approachable you will be, and the easier it will be for you to attract men. Plus, this will help you to feel sexy – and if you feel sexy, men will think you’re sexy, too. Just like us, men find confidence an incredible turn on.
After getting your look down, work on your body language – which can speak louder than any words you might come up with to woo Prince Charming. First, let’s look at what you shouldn’t be doing: sending negative, non-approachable signals, like crossing your arms, turning away from the guy you’re chasing, or looking at the ground. These tell guys that you’re not into them – and they’ll pick up on this and avoid talking to you. Having open body language, like the proximity of your body to the guy, gently and occasionally finding ways to touch his arm or hands, and making eye contact while you smile at him all announce to him that, “Hey, I’m available and interested – in you.”
One of the biggest stumbling blocks that I found was trying to figure out what to say – but often, you don’t have to come up with anything to say at all. Sometimes, you’ll score the most points with your prince by just listening to what he has with genuine interest and responding appropriately. And remember, stay relaxed: you’ll continue to be more approachable the less high-strung you appear.
Of course, all of this comes with practice – so present yourself well, smile at a few men, and above all, try to stay relaxed.
