Kill the Anxiety, Enliven the Flirting with Men
Alright – so the prospect of approaching an attractive guy fills you with dread and anxiety. It makes you feel slightly sick to your stomach, and the very idea of it keeps you up late at night.
But there’s relief to be had! Once, my close female friends couldn’t flirt my way through a room filled with inebriated, single men – but by following these secrets she found, she found out how that she can steal all of the attention in a room and pick whichever guy she liked.
The first thing – and most important – is to learn how to look your best without overdoing it. Looking naturally beautiful will draw more attention to you than just about anything else that you could do. Note that this doesn’t mean you have to look like a Playboy centerfold! Rather, it means understanding what your best features are and focusing on them, emphasizing and sensuously complementing them. Don’t coat your big, beautiful eyes in black eyeliner; rather, find a color that’s subtle, but brings them out. The big thing here, however, isn’t to appeal to notions of beauty – it’s to feel beautiful! That confidence will take you a long ways, and if you’re confident, men will find you attractive no matter how you look.
Once you’ve established your man-slayer look, it’s time to work on your body language. Crossing your arms, avoiding eye contact, and focusing on the floor are all signs to men that you’re neither interested in them nor any other guy in the room. These signal to men one thing above all else: that you’re unapproachable. However, by turning to face men, engaging in eye contact, and smiling at them while you do so will all indicate that you’re both attracted and interested in them – and they’ll chase you across a bar for this.
After you’ve mastered body language and your looks, you’ll need to be aware of how to talk to men – and this can be the easiest part! Despite stereotypes, men tend to prefer to dominate conversations, and will be quite the chatterboxes if you only encourage them. This means that if you listen to what Prince Charming saying and respond with positivity, then he’ll want to sweep you off of your feet and into his arms – without you even need to come up with anything to say!
Ultimately, you’re going to need to practice: anxiety isn’t magically washed away with a trip to the stylist. The more willing you are to work on yourself and your dating skills, the better prospects you’re going to have.
