Why Playing Hard To Get With Men Is A BAD Idea
It’s in movies, books, magazines and even on grandma’s list of tricks to catch a guy. But it’s one of the worst dating ideas ever!
This article will help you to understand why playing “hard to get” with men is a BAD idea.
Cynthia was a really sweet girl who was head-over-heels for Nathan. They started going out and things were going good.
That was when Cynthia remembered the sadly faulty advice that she’d been given about playing hard to get.
For centuries women have been told that if they send men mixed signals, use emotions and sex as reward and punishment, and insist on being treated like this behavior is normal, it will make men respect them more.
Cynthia liked Nathan so much, she didn’t want to lose him or his respect. So she started pulling away, making him work harder to get in touch, and with-holding physical affection.
Little did she know why playing “hard to get” with men is a BAD idea. Here is the reason what Cynthia did nearly cost her a great guy.
1. Nathan didn’t understand what she was doing. When a woman stops talking to him and suddenly changes behavior, a guy thinks he has done something wrong.
This made Nathan feel like the bad guy for no reason.
2. Cynthia started to get stressed out by her own behavior, which made her emotional. Her already confused guy found her suddenly volatile feelings very hard to handle.
3. Because of problem’s one and two, Cynthia and Nathan stopped communicating. This is the first stage of relationship-necrosis!
4. Because of the bad advice she was given, the worse things got, the harder to get Cynthia became.
She cut off physical affection, stopped telling Nathan she cared about him, and started to become a demanding, hard to live with person.
Thank goodness, Nathan cared enough about Cynthia to finally call her on the carpet and tell her how unreasonable she was being. Men are straightforward creatures however, and not all guys have the wisdom Nathan displayed.
Acting like an archaic damsel in distress and bring unrealistic expectation to the table nearly cost Cynthia a relationship with a guy who really cared about her. That is exactly why playing “hard to get” with men is a BAD idea.
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