Why You Should Avoid Dating Advice from Girlfriends

By:Devon July 25, 2012 at 8:17 am

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Most women looking to date seek dating advice from their girlfriends. However, you have to realize that turning to your friends isn’t always the best option.

Women tend to look for advice amongst their female friends far more often than any other source, but a combination of bad personal experiences and poor perspective usually make any advice they offer useless.

For example, I have heard women say things like, “You should never date a redheaded guy. They have terrible tempers. I dated a redheaded guy once and we fought all the time.”

This is not reasonable advice. First, just because the guy she dated may have had red hair and a bad temper does not mean all redheads have bad tempers. Secondly, it is possible this guy was perfectly level-headed and she was the problem in that relationships.

Honesty and clarity are by far the most important qualities to look for in those you seek advice from, and in too many groups of friends, those qualities are lacking.

When women get together, there is an overwhelming tendency for them to talk about men and the dating scene in general with a pessimistic and discouraging attitude.

They share horror stories of the worst dates they’ve been on or the most heartbreaking break-up they’ve been through.

This tendency increases dramatically when women get together in large groups. It’s almost habitual for women to discuss men as only being interested in sex, or as being overall unqualified to date, rather than focusing on specific issues and giving realistic advice.

All men are not solely interested in sex, and all the good men are not married or gay. You need to immediately stop listening to women who say these types of things. Now, you might be thinking; ‘Oh, Devon, you’re a guy; or course you are going to defend men.’

Let me put it this way, would it be fair for guys to give other guys advice like, “Blondes are great for a good time, but don’t bother getting serious with one; they’re too dumb for a real relationship”? The answer to that question is no.

This isn’t to say that all women are unqualified to give dating advice, only that you should seek advice from someone who’s going to give you clear, straightforward, and well-thought out bits of advice.

If you are seeking advice and the women you are talking to starts comparing the guy you are interested in to one of her exes, chances are it is going to be bad advice.

Sometimes for women seeking dating advice, it may be best to seek out the opinion of a man that you trust and respect—especially if you’re wondering about uncertainty in a specific situation.

Men are not inherently more inclined to give good advice, but they can offer a truer, more natural male perspective.

Sometimes solid dating advice is hard to come by. You need to seek out people who are going to give you really great advice. For more on things women need to stop doing in order to improve their dating life, read The 7 Self-Sabotaging Behaviors That Keep Women From Meeting Mr. Right! CLICK HERE to get your copy.