Should I Play Hard to Get?

By:Devon August 24, 2012 at 11:47 pm

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Anyone who has read my blog or liked my Facebook page is well aware of the fact I am 100% against women deciding to play hard to get when getting involved with a man.

A popular opinion circulating amongst women is that playing “hard to get” will keep a guy interested in you during the early stages of courtship, or that not playing “hard to get” will have the opposite effect.

While it may seem enticing to play a mysterious or distant role, playing “hard to get” with a guy is almost always a bad idea.

Imagine a dual scenario: you give your number to a guy you like, and you give your number to a guy you don’t like.

If the guy you don’t like calls you, you’ll ignore the phone call because you simply aren’t interested. But if the guy you do like calls you and you’re playing “hard to get,” you’ll ignore his phone call too.

Essentially, you’re taking the same course of action for both the guy you like and the guy you don’t like.

Men are very logical, black-and-white beings. They have a tendency to analyze situations in a binary system, as having either one output or the other—so if you ignore a guy’s phone call, odds are he’ll perceive you as being uninterested.

If you are interested, let him know you’re interested, and don’t go through the trouble of pretending you aren’t; it will only complicate matters.

Furthermore, the truly good guys—the ones you would want in the first place—aren’t liable to chase after you if you’re playing “hard to get.” They’re too mature to be playing those kinds of games, and maybe you should be, too.

Playing hard to get is rude and likely behavior you would not tolerate from a man.

To think of it another way, if a guy does put up with the games and allows you to treat him badly right after meeting each other, is that really the kind of guy you want to get serious about?

Wouldn’t you prefer to be with a man who has self-respect?

Whenever I hear women talking about the importance of playing hard to get, I want to ask them what exactly they are looking for because it certainly isn’t a serious relationship.

I’m not saying you should completely put yourself out there right after meeting someone or attempt to spend every waking minute with him. There is nothing wrong with being reserved or taking things slow.

Playing hard to get is making a man jump through hopes to get a date with you; ignoring his phone calls, saying you’re busy when you’re not, flaking out on plans, etc.

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