How to Get to a Second Date

By:Devon September 11, 2012 at 9:12 am

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First dates are like any other venture in life, even sales—the first impression is everything, and you only have one chance.In most cases, the goal of the first date is to get to a second date.

The first date is a natural opportunity for you to make a great first impression on your date, but if you end up failing in the first conversation, you may lose out on what might otherwise turn out to be an amazing new relationship.

The most important thing to avoid in a first conversation—and a first date in general—is the threat of being boring.

Odds are, you aren’t a boring person to begin with.

You may not realize it immediately, but you probably have a lot of interesting traits, hobbies, and stories to tell, so don’t let those stories go to waste!

Too many people go on a first date and end up making a boring impression because they decide to play it safe. This is true for men and women.

If you’re going on a first date, imagine what you want to see him do and hear him say.

Do you want him to talk about himself like he’s in a job interview or do you want him to act naturally?

If you’re looking for a long term relationship, you probably want to get to know him—not just know things about him. So why would you expect him to want anything different from you?

Your words are powerful, and if you’re going to make a great first impression you need to use them to your advantage. Lead the conversation, and show off how interesting you really are.

a good strategy to be prepared for an interesting conversation is to have conversation ideas prepared. You don’t need to go nuts and prepare notes, just have a couple questions or stories in mind to bring up if the conversation starts to lag.

Although generally speaking, silence is not a bad thing, on a first date, silence can make any moment feel uncomfortable.

Another good strategy is to be fully engaged in every conversation. Ask him questions or make comments based on what he is telling you.

For example, if he is telling you about his love of white water rafting, ask questions, make comments, or share a story about your own white water rafting experience.

Don’t just wait for him to finish his story and then being up a different topic. The conversation should be able to flow naturally from one topic to another.

Finally, it is always a good strategy to choose an interesting first date. For example, you can go out to dinner and the success of the date will depend completely on the conversation.

Alternatively, you can choose to go to a restaurant where you cook your own food or the food is cooked at your table. These types of places will make the atmosphere an integral part of the overall enjoyment of the date.

You could also forgo a sit down dinner, and grab a bite to eat while walking around a street fair or festival, attend a sporting event, or try your hand at putt-putt.

The point is there is an endless amount of possibilities when it comes to places to go on a first date.

Once you get to a second date, you are well on your way to a real relationship. Read The 7 Self-Sabotaging Behaviors That Keep Women From finding Mr. Right!